Vertical submission is NOT the topic in these verses in Ephesians 5:18-24. How to build up one another IS the topic. Focus on how Christ lovingly is united with members of His body and you will see how believers are to get along with one another. Christian wives and husbands are a great model for mutually building up one another. Ruling over is NOT what is taught here.
Have you seen the literary patterns that speak to us in Ephesians 5:15-6:9? They prevent us from taking these verses out of context.
Paul teaches that believers are to be mutually building up one another. They are to teach and correct one another. And they are to submit themselves to what they are receiving fro one another. This is a HORIZONTAL and RECIPROCAL SUBMISSION that is world's away from the vertical submission many people teach about these verses.
Christian wives and husbands serve as an excellent example of this functional unity in Christ. These verses are not primarily about marriage. Rather, they illustrate how to be being filled with the Spirit (5:18b). They give us a picture of the unity of the body of Christ that is the central idea of this passage (5:31-32).
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